People are always shocked when I tell them that Valentines Day is my favorite holiday. Despite it taking place in the dead of winter, it still warms my heart to see all the pink, red, and heart shaped candies.
I realize the best Valentines Days I've had in life were as a single woman. From the elementary school parties, to going to a decorated restaurant or even just eating a heart shaped pizza, I had the time of my life when it was just me.
I do feel that once I was in relationships, the people I dated were not as excited about Valentines Day as much as I was, and the gifts and dates felt more like an obligation than a romantic guesture.
I don't miss this.
So I personally just lean into my situation. I take myself to the movies, buy one of those big bears they sell on the corner, and call it a day.
If I need to grieve past relationships, I let myself grieve. The song “All I Wanted” by Paramore came on shuffle and instead of fighting it, I just let the tears fall. There were things that I wanted that never came to fruition. But grieving helps me to let the emotion pass through and go.
After grieve, I go back to realizing that there's a huge difference in being lonely and being alone. That being alone doesn't have to be a negative thing. And loneliness is just a signal to myself that I need some human interaction. Not nessicarily a romantic interaction either.
I love the holiday that's all about love. Its never a bad thing to celebrate loving yourself.
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